At some point in our married life, we find ourselves stuck between supporting our parents and vouching for our in-laws. It is not something very pleasant and the faster we come out of this rut the better for us.
Every family has certain secret and specific idiosyncrasies which are understood unbiasedly by the family members . However when two individuals get married these idiosyncrasies of both these families gets exposed. And a behavior or ritual of your family which you find to be very normal, is found to be absurd by your spouse and his/her family member. With time your spouse and you begin to understand each others families and the not so normal rituals and behaviors becomes a part of your life.
However, there comes times when there is a clash in thinking between our parents and in-laws, and the person who gets stuck between these two is you and your spouse. As my parents child I understand why they did “XYZ ” in a certain way , my in laws on the other hand believe that “XYZ ” should be done in another way. The result being both the parties being offended. Sometimes both of them are wrong and sometimes neither of them. But as a couple caught in between, we are forced to resolve the issue.
My friend who stays close to her parents and in laws is frequently caught in such situations and finds it extremely exhausting. I on the other hand stay very far away from both of them but tend to get caught sometimes in such situations and find it extremely draining.
Worse comes to worse we as a couple start to have arguments about this only to realize that we husband and wife fighting is not the solution 🙂
What do you have to say about this ? Have you been caught in such situations ? What do you do then ?
Sometimes I guess its better to keep quiet, cause eventually our parents and in-laws will find a way to get together.